Personal Growth through Chronic Struggle…

All right y’all… Jimmie and Charlie Watson here.

"The Watson Brothers"

“The Watson Brothers”

Our topic today is struggle, and in particular the struggle we are having with this blog.

Would you agree that most of us try to avoid struggle? This is because struggle is uncomfortable, often painful and embarrassing, and more often than not leads to more struggle.

We have a different take on struggle. We believe that chronic struggle, even with all its pain, should be welcomed as an opportunity for some personal growth. When you look closely at personal struggle, you will be able to see it is an indicator of something needing to change within the person who is experiencing the struggle. This quote by R. D. Laing says it best:

“The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to NOTICE; and because we fail to NOTICE that we fail to NOTICE, there is little we can do to change; until we NOTICE that failing to NOTICE limits all that we think and do.”

We describe this phenomenon of noticing as an opportunity to “view and/or relate to same things differently”. What we tend not to notice is that how we typically view and relate to our struggle is actually contributing to our struggle. As an example, let’s look at the struggle we are currently experiencing with this blog.

Since creating our blog earlier this month, we have been struggling with how best to use it to accomplish our intentions of assisting people who want to change one or more areas of their life… We have spent days thinking about what to write and share, but everything we came up with wasn’t what we felt to be effective in accomplishing our objectives. So many days have passed with no postings. When we started the blog, we thought it would be a relatively easy initiative requiring only a few hours per week. The reality is that we have been spending many hours daily with nothing to show for our efforts. So we decided something needed to change within us, and that change was to relate to the blog initiative differently. This morning we finally realized why we were struggling.

Over the past 20 years, we have been able to assist people from all walks of life who were looking for answers concerning their desire to make significant changes in their lives. We accomplished this by listening to their individual stories describing their particular concerns, fears, and struggles. It was after hearing these stories that we could help, not before. And herein lays our struggle.

We were focused on what we wanted to write about and share.  We now realize that won’t work if our intentions are to be fulfilled. Why?

There are a couple of fundamental facts at play affecting our blog initiative. The first is that the type of change we are talking about causes significant loss. Hence, the change experience is very emotional and needs to be grieved. So a blog full of advice and logic won’t be effective.  The second important fact is that the type of change that we are discussing does not occur by learning what someone else already knows. This is why much of the advice people give to others is seldom if ever taken.  So again, an advising logical blog is not going to work.

We decided that our blog cannot be about what we know nor can it be too logical and full of advice. And this is where our change of how to relate to our blog had to occur.  For it to succeed, we will need to let go of all our advice giving ideas and instead be more engaging by sharing real life situations that at one time or another we all experience and can identify with.  In addition, we will add some provocative observations and questions that will allow you and our other followers to personalize the content and respond with additional insights, observations, questions, stories and more.

So what can you expect going forward? Hopefully a reading experience that you can emotionally connect with and will assist you in uncovering some of your thoughts, beliefs and behavior patterns that may be contributing to certain struggles in your life. And quite frankly, this was not where our blog was headed.

Now back to the subject of personal growth and struggle.  Do you agree with our premise? Do you have additional thoughts that you’d like to share?  Do you have suggestions you’d like to share?  We really want to hear from you, so please don’t hold back.

In the spirit of living and learning, we are…

“the Watson brothers”

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